Christmas are approaching! Isn’t that time to celebrate? Not for just anybody. If you are single fearing becoming alone during the holidays, ones might want the festivities to make sure you pass as quickly as possible. “No time of the year might be thus dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to become with, things would have also been different”, you whisper to yourself time and again.
The secret to help you doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you wasn’t able to develop a successful intimacy so far; what made you will fail in your relationships as yet. Is it really so that you just didn’t come across partners who had been good enough for you? Is it actually so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible that you develop and maintain a successful intimacy?
Using the holidays’ time for them to figure out what are the true causes of your inability to have a significant, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, is mostly a time well-spent. The insights you’ll gain will enable you to find a suitable partner by means of whom to develop and maintain a very good intimacy.
Using the holidays to think these over could help you understand the true reasons for the failures. You might find, for example, that you have patterns of behaviors which repeat themselves throughout all your past-relationships which always triggered conflicts between you your partners.
Or you might find out that you haven’t been successful finding a partner until now not since no “suitable” partner came your way, but because you ended up being over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for a single reason or another); and also that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you shut off with that they terminated the relationship; or that you were thus controlling and demanding a growing number of of your dates just denied your attempts to getting better and maybe even to relocating together.
Use the holidays to figure out how not to be alone next year. It may seem that such advice is normally ridiculous. Why to think about after that year when this year’s holidays are approaching? Associated with simple: if you have been single for a long time, what guarantee do you own that you will not be simple next year as well?
The odds probably do not work in your favour! Therefore, it is up to you to do something about your situation. Therefore, you may want to use a holidays this year to figure out steps to create a change for next 12 months! How can you use this year’s excursions to become able to have a relationship next year?
Why is you think that between sometimes a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful romance? If you have been failing in having a wonderful relationship up to now, what are the odds that you will flourish in having one next year?
Could it really be that you just did all you could to identify a partner with whom to formulate a good relationship but don’t have luck? Well, all of these can serve you as arguments and rationalizations to not becoming successful. But is it really the circumstance? Or could there be other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that some thing in you hinders and prevents you from using a successful relationship?